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Where to Start

Kiana Reeves

Certified sexological bodyworker, birth doula, and chief content officer at Foria

“The first piece is recognizing what a deeply heightened state of arousal feels like and giving yourself the time to get there. In highly aroused states, which is where you experience the most pleasurable sensation and the most intense orgasms, your vulva will feel engorged and your clitoris will have a little bit of an erection; it’ll feel fuller and firmer and have more height to it.

“To activate deeply heightened arousal, you use your largest sex organ—your brain. Maybe you’re playing with fantasies that could be a little edgy for you, trusting that your mind will lead you to places that are important to explore. Making it a full-body experience naturally builds in the time factor: You’re going to spend more time touching yourself if you’re touching different parts of your body. Bringing in your breasts, your nipples, your thigh, your butt, your feet, your scalp…there are so many erogenous stones on the body. Lastly, find products or toys that work for you. Maybe it’s your hand one day; maybe it’s a vibrator that you really love another day. Maybe it’s an arousal oil—we have a phenomenal one at Foria.”

Reeves’s pick:

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   Foria
   Awaken Arousal Oil
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The Reiki Master’s Advice

Daydree Horner

Certified life coach and Reiki master teacher

“In order to unfold to your bliss like a butterfly, it’s best to release your cocoon of stress and anxiety. Start sitting or lying down; place your hands on your second chakra, which is your lower abdomen; and close your eyes. Take some nice, long, deep breaths. Gently give a push down, almost like you’re going to the bathroom. That’s going to create pressure. Take more long, deep breaths. That’s the most important step—more than music, scent, or any object: relaxation. Although the rabbit has always been good to me.”

1. goop’s pick:

   
   

   LELO
   Ina 3
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Connect to Your Turn-On Language

Shan Boodram

sexologist, intimacy expert, and host of Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

“Think about what turns you on with a partner, and don’t feel like you have to rewrite that script. My turn-on language is desire: feeling like I am sexy and desirable. Some people are more sensory. Some people are sapiosexuals, so they feel the potential for arousal when they have a mentally stimulating conversation with someone. Knowing that language, how do you find a similar way to create that dynamic with yourself? If I like when my partner compliments me or gives me affirmations, that’s what I do for myself before I even touch my body.”

1. Boodram’s pick:

   
   

   Dame Products
   Fin Vibrator
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Get into Your Head

Laurie Watson, PhD, LMFT

Certified sex therapist, founder and director of Awakenings Counseling for Couples and Sexuality, and host of Foreplay Radio

“Women have to arouse their mind, or often their body just won’t respond. What I hear from my clients is that they respond most to building a fantasy—about their partner, a taboo act, a memory from the past, something that they’d like to try in the future—although women can be and are often aroused by sight. A few women that I talk to do watch porn. Or picture a hot body. Or read romantic novels, which you can tailor to your taste, from simple innuendo to very explicit.”

1. Watson’s pick:

   
   

   goop x Heretic
   This Smells Like My Vagina Roll-On
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